Patience is our ability to wait without the inner or external manifestations of being irritated while waiting. It’s accepting the amount of time it takes for our desires to be realized while not expending energy on trying to lessen our wait. It’s submitting to the wait in our lives in a calm, relaxed way, with no complaints.
In todays fast-paced and technology fueled environment, patience seems to be under attack and weakening. I am talking about my own experiences though it sure does seem to be happening to most. How we drive, stand in line, track our online purchases, download a file or whatever causes us to wait these days, we seem to be doing our waits impatiently. If we are in a line with others, many times our smiles are just fake veils of our true impatient feelings while others just roll their eyes in reckless-impatience-abandon. “Come on you slow-poke! Move your car out of my way!” “Come-on, come-on! Download already!” Even our appreciation and thankfulness gets pulled down with impatience. An example of this that touches home is having a perfectly operational iPhone 5 and not being satisfied with it knowing that if I just had the iPhone 6s the downloads might take 2 seconds instead of the 4 seconds to download on the 5! 2 stinking seconds is enough to be impatient about. 2 stinking seconds is enough to cause me to not be thankful with my device. 2 stinking seconds causes me so much tension, poor me!
If we are going to ‘Do unto others as we would have done to us, we must be patient. Patience is needed to understand other’s experiences. Patience is needed to listen to others without thinking about what we are going to say next. Patience in waiting to find that special person to possibly spend the rest of your life with. I’ll never forget my canned response to family and friends while in my 20’s when asked if I was dating anyone. It usually went like this…”Bill, are you dating anyone? … “No I’m not, I’m learning patience” was my canned answer. What I meant was, “No, I am not dating anyone…I wish I was…I just need to wait…and the wait really sucks!” Loneliness forces us to learn Patience. Thank you Suzie for making that lonely wait so much worth it! I love you always Sweet. Impatience causes anxiety while patience leads to healthy anticipation.
When we choose to fight against time with our impatience, we are fighting a lost fight. We just need to slow down and realize that time isn’t going anywhere. Time was, is and will always be. Time is our untouched canvas awaiting our strokes of effort, planning and doings. We can either create a beautiful masterpiece with patience as our guide or call it modern with impatient splashes of random array. It’s keeping an inner-calm when dealing with time. It’s having control over time rather than having time control us. In real estate it’s always, “Location, location, location”…In life, how about “Patience, patience, patience”. Here is a story about a patient, happy man who was the master of his time while resisting becoming a slave to it. The story goes like this and was copied from the net:
“An American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
The Mexican replied, “only a little while. The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish? The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The American then asked, “but what do you do with the rest of your time?”
The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siestas with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine, and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life.” The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually New York City, where you will run your expanding enterprise.”
The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, how long will this all take?”
To which the American replied, “15 – 20 years.”
“But what then?” Asked the Mexican.
The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions!”
“Millions – then what?”
The American said, “Then you would retire and move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siestas with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.””
Patience, how can we strengthen it in our lives? How are you impatient? How have you shown patience? How has someone been patient with you?